Hey you! Yes, YOU! You're the one I'm talking to... the one who is disappointed and disillusioned with their retirement. The one who is so fed up with life in retirement that they're wishing they'd stayed on at work. The one who's sitting around, feeling sorry for themselves or moaning and groaning to anyone who'll listen BUT not actually doing anything to improve the situation they're in.
Have I got your attention, now? Good! Now, let me ask you a couple of questions:
1. What is it that you're actually waiting for?
2. How much time do you think you have left to sit around feeling sorry for yourself?
Okay, I know you feel down - you're probably bordering on being depressed. You feel overwhelmed by the futility of it all. Nobody seems to understand what you're going through. Everyone you know seems like they're getting on with things and leaving you behind. It's hard to get out of bed in the morning because you've nothing worth getting out of bed for. You've probably got some health problems and the kind of support that will get you going again seems non-existent. You feel like you're locked in a downward spiral and can't seem to muster up the will or the energy to do anything about it.
Here's the thing...
If you don't do something different - like changing your behaviour or your mindset, getting off your butt and taking some exercise, learning some new skills or new ways of thinking, maybe even investing money in yourself to help you do those things - how on earth do you expect anything to change? And how much longer can you hang on for? You're retired for heaven's sake! Without trying to put too fine a point on it - you're in the final third of your life. How much longer do you think you have left? 10 years? 20 years? (Probably a whole lot less if you carry on in the way that you have been doing...) The question, 'If not now, when?' has never been more relevant!
Now I know I'm usually nice and supportive - offering tips and advice and articles and encouragement... but sometimes a coach needs to show some tough love! And the truth is - your retirement might be cr*p, but it's the only one you've got! No-one is coming to rescue you! You've got to rescue yourself!
Here's how you can make a start:
1. Just take the first step... I'm 99.9% certain that you know what that first step is and you're just resisting taking it. (And if you genuinely have no idea what that first step is, then get some help.)
2. Find out if you're depressed and, if it seems likely that you are, contact your doctor TODAY!
3. Stop complaining - it's highly likely that you're just alienating the people around you - making them less likely to WANT to be around you. And without a supportive network of people around you, things are going to feel a whole lot worse.
4. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Take action instead. Re-read step 1 above. Decide what it is you need to do and take the first baby step in the right direction. I love baby steps. They're much easier to take than a big leap and, no matter how small the step you feel able to take, you'll have made progress. Which will give you the incentive to take the next baby step and the next and the... (Okay - you get it.).
5. Start finding things to appreciate - anything - the sun's come out, you have Internet access and can find information on any subject you have an interest in - the answer to your problem is sure to be out there somewhere, your town has a library full of self-help books you can access for free... Even if you're a dyed-in-the-wool misery-guts, I know you can find SOMETHING to appreciate if you look hard enough!
6. If you really don't know where to start - get some help! My Retirement Detox Program: 40 Days to get your retirement back on track costs just £10 or about $15 for a 40-day program - that's 25 pence a day (about 38 cents) - a lot less than the cost of the chocolate, cake or wine you're probably medicating yourself with to make you feel better about the fact that your life is cr*p (and a lot healthier too!).
Whatever it is you decide to do, just promise me you'll do SOMETHING! Okay? Do we have a deal?
What's your first step going to be?