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In Remembrance

Do Not Resuscitate

I had a recent conversation with my dad about someone we know who experienced symptoms that could have suggested that a cerebral haemorrhage (UK spelling) had taken place, and the fact that they hadn't sought immediate medical help.  I would have done. 

My dad said, if it was him and it WAS a c.h., he would have preferred not to have been treated and to just let nature take its course. 

However, it turns out that my dad doesn't have a Living Will in place and he didn't seem particularly concerned about getting one.  Which means that, should the worst happen, I'm just going to have to hope that I can convince people of his wishes.

Someone who isn't leaving anything to chance is 81 year-old, Joy Tomkins, who is so determined not be resuscitated in the event of a medical emergency that she's had the words 'Do Not Resuscitate' tattooed on her chest.  No joke.  Check it out here.

What about you?  D.N.R. or G.E.Y.G. (Gimme Everything You've Got)?  And what lengths would you go to to make sure your wishes were respected?


Lynne Butler, BA, LLB

Thanks for raising the important topic of ensuring that final medical wishes are known.

When I talk to clients about having a medical directive put into place, I frequently get a response along the lines of "oh I don't need that, my family knows what I want". Typically there has been no formal discussion and family members are expected to somehow know the wishes simply by living in the same house. As a result, each family member has a different idea on "what he would have wanted".

I also note that many people who think they want DNR really only want DNR for certain situations. They don't want to be kept alive in a vegetative state, but when I ask if they'd want to be resuscitated from a stroke, for example, they say "of course I would!". These people need more information before deciding to go with a DNR designation.


Ann Harrison

Excellent points, Lynne. Thanks for making them!


Excellent post and quite relevant today with 2 people I know in the late stages of incredibly surprising cancers. I thought I was quasy prepared, but after this last few weeks, I am getting everything in writing.

Ann Harrison

Hi Lucie and welcome to the carnival! It's good to have you with us.

'Getting everything in writing' sounds like a good plan to me!


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